Perhaps you’ve heard this quote, often attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt.
It’s an excellent evaluator of the character of people, so I’m putting it here for your consideration:
“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and little minds discuss other people.”
Another Roosevelt, Alice, the daughter of Teddy, had these wise words embroidered on a pillow in her living room:
“If you can’t say something nice about someone, sit here by me.“
I admit I am sympathetic to both attitudes.